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neena maiya's avatar

This is a hard conversation to have. We, most of us, cruise though life not thinking about this. Even as caregiver for my Aged M., I shy away from it.

I hope the UK can save and rebuild the health care system that you all have and don't let lazy, greedy governments destroy it. xx

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Emma Stubbs's avatar

It is hard to face isn't it? x I hope the health system can recover and be the ‘service’ it was intended to be, not a business!

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Nancy in Oregon's avatar

AMEN! I'm 75 with both parkinson's and rheumatoid arthritis. My husband and I are two years out from moving to a retirement home that we have selected. This establishment is 50 miles from my only son and his wife. They objected at first but now they have a newborn and are more realistic about their energy and resources. I started last year getting rid of "stuff" and will continue to do so until we close the doors behind us. Our assets are in a trust. Our will needs re-doing but that's easy enough.

You see, I'm doing what my parents did. They decided, as I am deciding where I will be and what will happen. Any discussions remaining will be pleasant ones so that I can enjoy my grandchild and friends as I can.

Other than that, bring on the bubble wrap!

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Emma Stubbs's avatar

I love this! I think it’s the only control we have of an uncertain future. Thank you xx

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Heather Cawte's avatar

It's taken a bit of work to get to the point where R and I can discuss my death calmly. I've drawn up a will, and power of attorney. He knows my wishes, and has detailed instructions for my funeral. I have perfect faith in his ability to handle things. I still don’t want it to happen, though xxxx

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Emma Stubbs's avatar

Oh of course not! But it is peace of mind knowing that the practicalities are sorted x

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A.'s avatar

Boo! Happy Haunting w PD;)

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Emma Stubbs's avatar

hahah with my falling and crashing tiny things I’m not the quietest haunting hahah

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A.'s avatar

I’m new to Substack whatever this is. Love ur column/writing!

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Emma Stubbs's avatar

Aww thank you! And welcome :)

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Emma Stubbs's avatar

Thank you so much, your kind words means so much to me xxx I’m looking the euthanasia options as well, I think that will be a future post. I love the die well philosophy xxx

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